Great New Stuff!

Wow! It's been a long time since I posted anything new here. I guess that's what happens when I run an online business AND work a full-time job. And when I DO have some free time, I have a wife who's been waiting (patiently or not) to spend it with me.

Speaking of my wife, she's from Peru and we thought we'd go into the business of importing and selling some nice Peruvian alpaca wool products. Like on eBay. We thought it would give her a chance to have her own little business. But for one reason or another (or several reasons) that didn't work out very well, and I've got some money invested in product that's sitting here in my office. And it cost so much in international transaction costs and shipping, I couldn't believe it!

I decided it's time to turn that over and get my investment back so we're offering these really nice, high-quality handbags, stretch caps (called "chullos") and ponchos at just over cost. Seriously close-out prices. Just for reference, we're offering unisex chullos for $13-14 (plus $5 shipping) that the supplier in Peru will sell you (including shipping) for $35-40. Or how about a soft-as-cashmere 100% baby alpaca poncho for $35 when the Peruvian supplier charges $79.99 for one that's a blend of alpaca and acrylic.

Take a look! http://www.man2woman.net/alpaca.html

Owen
coach@man2woman.net

Blame Or Accept Responsibility?

When you blame others, you give up your power to change.
--Dr. Robert Anthony

This is so true. When you put the blame on others for your problems, you're saying only other people - over whom you have no control - can improve your life. You're giving them total power and control over you. If you want things to change, YOU have to do the changing and you can only do that when you accept the truth that you're responsible for yourself and your life. If things have gone wrong, chances are you're the one who caused it, or at least played a part in things going awry.

Owen
coach@man2woman.net

More from Kara: A Mean Little Book

I was at a Hallmark store the other day and on the counter was a stand with the cutest little 2 inch books. One grabbed my attention because the title was "What Women Say About Men". On each page was a put-down of men. The one I remember was "The more I understand men, the more I like dogs." After reading a couple more I asked the man at the counter if all the entries were that mean-spirited. He said pretty much but that he thought they were kind of funny. We talked more about the commercials, films, and sitcoms that make men look like bafoons. The fact that he's accepted this as how it is made me sad.

I asked him if he thought a book that was aimed at putting down women would sell and he agreed with me that women would be completely up-in-arms. Putting men down has become so common that we don't generally question it. But think about this: How might this attitude be coloring your image of men and how you treat them? And how might that be affecting your current or past relationships? Pay attention overthe next few weeks. Maybe there are some adjustments in your thinking and interactions that could help your relationships with men.

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From Kara Oh

Kara Oh is the author of Men Made Easy, Everlasting Love, and Women Made Easy and the founder of the Aunt Kara's School of Charm, Seduction and Feminine Grace: A Course In the Joys of Womanly Ways

What a Man Should Watch Out For When Selecting a Mate

Do You Know Anyone Who Fits Any Of These Descriptions?

In Women Made Easy, the book I wrote to help men with their relationship delimmas, I describe the kind of women that they should avoid. You might find this list interesting, just in case you or a friend might occasionally slide into behavior that scares men off. Any of the items below that would describe a man, you should avoid them because this advice goes both ways.

1. Avoid any woman who is financially irresponsible. You will end up in a mess. Not making much money is not the same as having poor money management skills. You don't need that kind of grief.

2. Avoid any woman who is angry at men. This is not immediately obvious so you need to dig a bit. If she starts talking about past relationships and begins to get angry, she could end up taking it out on you.

Ask her how she thinks the feminist movement has harmed men and women's ability to create loving, respectful relationships. If she hasn't thought about it, the direction you want to explore is if she thinks it feels good to have a man be her hero, and if she enjoys a man who wants to be the man so she can better enjoy being a woman.

3. Avoid any woman who blames others for what's going on in her life. She'll end up blaming you and won't ever take responsibility for her part of the dance. And it does take two to do the relationship dance.

4. Avoid spoiled women. You can tell by what they expect and how appreciative they are with what others give them and do for them. Spoiled women are like a bottomless pit.

5. If she ever, even once, says something to put you down you are in for some very big trouble. She is an emasculator and she'll cut away at your masculinity.

6. Avoid women who are inconsistent. You don't want to be blindsided by irratic behavior.

7. Avoid women who are emotionally wacky. Women can be emotional but if they are out of control be very, very careful. She can surprise you in some pretty scary ways.

8. Avoid women who are generally unhappy. You want a woman who is happy or you will have to work too hard and will get worn out. This type of woman is too much work and she will never be happy, no matter how much you do for her.

9. Avoid women who have no close friends. She will expect you to be everything for her, which is too much for any man to take on. And there is something intrinsically wrong with a women who has no close friends. She is not emotionally healthy.

10. Avoid women who are easily bored. A women who gets bored does not have enough interests and is not good at finding her own activities. A bored person is boring and not very interesting.

Notice if you have been drawn to these kind of women. Often, men enjoy rescuing women, then wonder why they get worn out and beaten down. If you want a healthy, happy woman, you must expect the same of yourself.

In the beginning of a relationship, everyone is putting their best foot forward. Unfortunately, women can be very good at acting whatever part is required to snag a man. That is one reason you should wait at least a year, probably two, before marriage. In that period of time you will begin to see inconsistencies if she is putting on an act.

Pay attention to how your friends and family feel about her. If they don't like her, that should be a big red flag. They can be much more objective than you can because they are not emotionally invested and they haven't been having sex with her. I married someone my grown son did not like. After we were divorced I asked myself why on earth I would ever want to be with someone my children did not like.

I think you are getting the general idea. Don't get blinded by a woman just because she's attractive or good in bed. If you're looking for a healthy, solid, long-term relationship, you want someone who is basically sound. You'd do no less if you were purchasing a used car.

Choose someone who makes you feel good, someone who makes you feel like a better person because you are with her. It may take a little longer to find her, but it will be well worth the wait.
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Comments welcome.
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Wishing you healthy relationships,
Owen
coach@man2woman.net

Bragging Time

I don't do this very often and don't have an opportunity often but this is the best. No, it's not about me, it's about my daughter.

My daughter, Ashley, turned 18 a few days ago but that's not what I'm going to brag about. Ready? In the past 3 days she's found out about TWO college scholarships she's been awarded AND she's been chosen to be the student speaker at her graduation ceremony. This is a kid who failed 9th grade, for reasons I won't go into, and whose mother dropped out of high school.

The scholarships were awarded based on Ashley's ability to write a well-thought-out essay (yeah, out of a generation of kids who can't communicate) and recommendations from her school.

What did I do? Not much, other than teaching her when she was little how much fun reading can be and how important it is to feed your brain daily. In kindergarten class the kids were supposed to draw a picture of their dad doing something he likes to do and Ashley drew one of me reading the newspaper. Seed planted. :-)

Proudly,
Owen
coach@man2woman.net

A Great Quote

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.--Maya Angelou

What can you change? Yourself. What can't you change? Other people. I found that the Serenity Prayer has helped me many, many times to adjust my attitude:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference."

Owen
coach@man2woman.net

Check out my new Delphi Forum! And feel free to post or respond - express yourself!

Why Men Want Sex and Women Want Love

by Elena Solomon
author of
12 Simple Rules

Men are frustrated with women because they never want sex.
Women are frustrated with men because they always want sex.

Women blame men that they don't know how to love.
Men blame women that they only talk about love but don't want to make it.

Whether you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change your life -
finally, you will be able to get rid of your frustrations about the opposite
gender.

The reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone, which is
predominantly male hormone. A normal male's body produces 20 times more of this
hormone than a female's.

In other words, a male feels the same way after one day without sex as a
female after 20 days without sex. A male that has not had sex in 20 days feels
the same way as a female after more than a year without sex.

Knowing this simple difference, you can already understand the pain of the
opposite gender. It's NOT their fault: they are made this way! It's in our
genes! This is the reason why men are men and women are women.

Men and women are DIFFERENT.
Not better or worse, just different.

A man can father a child every time he has sex, and a woman can only mother a
child every two years or so. This means, a woman HAS TO be picky about who she
allows to have sex with her.

For generations women were paying too high a price for making a wrong choice.
Women that have chosen men with bad genes had a weaker offspring and their
children struggled to survive. Women that have chosen men with good genes had a
stronger offspring and their children survived disproportionably. Those children
were carrying their picky mother's genes and this is why those female genes were
passed to us.

On the other hand, men never had adverse consequences of making a wrong
choice. The more children they produced, the higher was their chance to pass
their genes to future generations, as some of them would certainly survive.
While men were determined to seek better genes too, they had to grab all chances
to procreate coming their way to ensure their genes would be passed forward. The
men that ONLY stuck with one woman (even a high quality woman) were losing
genetically to the men that used all of their opportunities and had many more
children that survived. Those children were carrying their father's promiscuous
genes, and this is why those male genes were passed to us.

By Nature men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so they can
spread their seed wider.

By Nature women are made to seek as many admirers as they can get, so they
can make a better choice and get the best seed.

Men seek quantity - women seek quality.
This is why men seek sex and women seek love.

Love is the proof that a woman needs to have some assurance that the man will
stick around and help her with the upbringing of the offspring. For a woman, sex
is the culmination of her emotional commitment to a man.

For a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone pressure he
experiences constantly. Only after this tension has gone, can a man feel love
towards a woman. This is why it often happens that men disappear after they got
what they wanted: it wasn't love; it was the testosterone pressure. Sex for men
is the reality check of their passion.

This is why having sex early in the relationship is hazardous for women: the
man has not had the time to develop any romantic feelings for her. He needs time
to develop those feelings, and the only way to do it is through keeping the
sexual tension going for as long as practicable. Sex must be attainable, nearly
possible - but not quite. When the sexual tension is at its peak, its release is
mind-blowing - and once is never enough, which lays a proper foundation for a
future relationship - and love.

Men fall in love through sex; women fall in sex through love.

All of this happens on the unconscious level - we do NOT realize what's going
on.

But the reason why you are here today and alive is because each and every of
your ancestors, men and women, acted true to their instincts and managed to
attract at least one sexual partner and produce an offspring.

So, there is no need to be bitter about men wanting sex and women wanting
love. Those two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle called Survival Of The
Species.

And you'll be better off understanding what the other gender is going through
and giving them exactly what they want: a mind-blowing sex or exhilarating love.

Go get 'em! :-)

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Elena
Solomon is a dating coach.

Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance'
bestseller in the leading ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK
after the release. It shows you EXACTLY how you can utilize the natural laws of
attraction and our in-built sexual strategies to win in the game of love.

Get the UNFAIR ADVANTAGE in the battle of sexes!

http://www.12SimpleRules.com/